On being in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

I've been in a long distance relationship for eight months now and I must say it really is a hard work. Although we've seen each other for four days when I visited him together with my friends last June, the thought of being with your partner as and when you need him is I guess the biggest challenge and the one I miss the most. Maybe you can still work it out by not seeing him in days or weeks but if it started counting to 4, 8 and eventually 12 months, do you think you could still shrug off and disregard the longing and sadness of being apart?

I define long distance relationships as those couples who are not readily available to go out on spontaneous dates, aren't able to celebrate monthsaries, anniversaries, birthdays, and basically all the holidays together. They can work out on one special date, and is a blessing if they do, but not really all. Add the times that one of you is sick or is stressed at work that the main thing you want is give them a hug to comfort them but then it isn't possible too. I don't believe that a week of being apart because of work or other matters count. It is the recurring feeling of eagerness of spending time together but no matter how much you whine and cry it will never happen because you are in two different and faaaaaaaaaar places that is sometimes worsen by time differences. Boy, am I just glad that Singapore has the same timezone as ours. :)

We were both new in this type of relationship but forgive me if I may boast, it was one of the finest and sincerest partnership. We give each other the most expensive and hardest to genuinely commit other than love which are time, trust and respect. Thank God for technologies that bridges the gap between us. Talking to each other for hours every night and most specially on weekends, telling stories about our work, the environment, social issues, pressing problems, future plans, etc, is already heaven. On another positive note, it also gives us time to pursue things on our own. As for me, I joined a choir, exercise zumba every night, perform well at work, have dates with mom or the whole family or friends every now and then and I'm even planning to learn how to play a keyboard and enroll in a driving school. It also sounds like he brings out the best in me and I'm pretty sure he has his own stories too. It's like we were given the opportunity to be better, to organize ourselves, our lives, before we eventually decide to elevate the relationship. 

It's not always hearts and butterflies. Sometimes it bites like an ant or a bad dream that sucks out the happiness in your solitude. But the sadness is only of the physical. Deep down my soul, I am fully contented and happy. And thankful for the experience because undoubtedly, it was an early test for me, for him and for us. I just can't wait to reach the end because I am pretty confident that we will pass and then we shall carry on to the next chapter. :)

Some may fail but it's not right to make a conclusion that all relationships under this do not last. When things seem to be harder to bear, you have each other. Just keep the faith.

Happy days with him. =)