The Beginning of a New Chapter

I am Iselle Agripa Diño.

I live in Binan Parañaque.

I am single married.

I feel like I'm an old person trying to fit in my new body. You know how we are adjusting when writing 2018 in our notes or diary last January because we are so used in using 2017? That kind of confusion and newness. It's not unpleasant, it's just that being married involves an every day process of adjustment.

Staying in another place other than our house was not a new concept to me. Way back in college, I spent four years in a dorm, going home only on weekends. During my practicum, we stayed in our host community for two straight months. But these experiences are nothing compared to the reality that I will not see my family every single day like what I was used to.

I don't know how others are coping with it. But in my case, there are still days where I am skeptical of my roles. I'm stuck thinking of what needs to be done, what is expected of me and what I wanted to do. I honestly miss the days when I can spend my entire weekends watching Korean dramas, or just reading a book. I sometimes feel like I don't even have the luxury to do that because of the many other tasks I need to prioritize now.

Given the case, would you still want to get married? Of course, you should. Don't be scared. It may be a whole new world for you but it isn't always discouraging. Personally, I've never felt more courageous than when I married my husband. It puts you in a different spectrum. This is not a drill nor an imagination anymore, but rather a dream becoming a reality. I sure miss my bed but I can't trade it to waking up next to my husband. I have my mom who does all the household chores but it also feels extremely satisfying exploring things on our own and succeeding in it.

I must admit, I am somewhat a pampered daughter. I don't wash my clothes, I don't usually cook and the only chore I mastered in is washing the dishes. My husband knows my weaknesses, and I am so glad he is bearing with me. Maybe because we both aren't perfect. I have my flaws while he also has his own. We just work around things by complementing each other - for example, he cooks while I wash the dishes. (Raise your hand if you are like this too in your own household?) Eventually, you'll get a hang of it. Not really by giving up but rather you'll be more understanding of your capabilities. You should stop pressuring your self to be the perfect housewife, just continue working your way towards becoming more loving and accepting of your new role. You'll be surprised by how you can manage to do the unfamiliar things as if you have been doing it for years already, like ironing clothes! Haha! I was impressed with myself when I was able to do it when I haven't really tried it all my life. It's true what they say - trust your instincts! And of course, I owe it to my mom for being a role model. Parents are truly our first teachers in this world.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes the changes in our lives give us different kind of scares but it is all part of growing up and gaining wisdom with age. Moreover, what is there to be frightened about if you have each other through thick and thin?

How about you? How's your transition from being a single to a married individual going so far?

Always wishing you well,

-Misis D